Real Stories From Looked After Children, about foster care, mental health, addiction and much more!

my first public speech about growing up in care | Looked After Children Promoting Equality Of Opportunity Conference

By |2023-01-13T13:45:30+00:00December 16, 2022|Addiction Story, Child Development Story, Foster Care Story, Generational trauma, Involved in criminal activity Story, Medication Story, Public Speaking, Real Stories, Relationship Story, Social Services Story, story|

It's always been my dream to speak in public, but also a fear. but with persistence and a lot of courage i was able to use my not so desirable upbringing to some good use. and to help other professionals looking after Children in care. this is a story about my recent Speech and how Li Jean-Luc Harris has overcome his fear of public speaking after attending Looked After Children Promoting Equality Of Opportunity Conference @ Open Forum events Manchester

i am a product of generational trauma

By |2023-01-13T13:45:30+00:00July 2, 2022|Adolescence development Story, Child Development Story, Generational trauma, Life Story, Mental Health Stories, Real Stories, story|

but I was determined to break the cycle of generational trauma As soon as I was placed into my second foster care placement. I had to readjust to life as everything  I had thought to be in a "normal" family was challenged. my second foster carers did an amazing job of showing me how a family should function and that constant chaotic situations and violence was not normal.

From Looked After Child to the Founder of Winstar Technologies

By |2023-01-13T13:45:30+00:00May 31, 2022|Adhd Story, Blog, Foster Care Story, Real Stories, story|

I've suffered with ADHD since a child, was medicated for a while but I decided to get myself removed from them, but recently I was able to get re-diagnosed and prescribed again under my own decision (and currently working on an autism diagnosis) which has allowed me to focus again and work on my new company, Winstar Technologies.

Going into Foster Care Aged 11

By |2023-01-19T19:05:43+00:00May 13, 2022|Foster Care Story, Life Story, Real Stories, Social Services Story, story|

The events before I was going into care It was January 2008, not long after Christmas. At the time, I was currently living with my Father. My Brother DH,AA and I were not the greatest of behaved kids if we are honest. We both had very complex needs and needed some help with our behavioural/emotional issues. Anyway, we had pushed our father way too far one weekend, and caused some issues with my dad and his current partner (at the time) Carol, and they decided to give up caring for us. Not knowing what to do, my dad sent DH and me to school on Monday morning and told us we were not returning home, which was a heart breaking moment for any child to [...]

Sectioned under the mental health act aged 15. At Kent and Medway adolescence hospital, (woodland House) Staplehurst Kent (KMAH)

By |2023-01-13T13:45:31+00:00February 8, 2022|Foster Care Story, Life Story, Mental Health Stories, Real Stories, Sectioned Under The Mental Health Act Story, Self Harm Story, Social Services Story, story|

I was checked into the Kent and Medway Adolescent Hospital, Woodland House, KMAH and the careers left me, the day had already gone past, i was scared and afraid. being only 15 and already suffering with a lot of past truama i could only think bad things where going to happen

How I become homeless aged 18 and addicted to drugs.

By |2023-01-13T13:45:31+00:00February 4, 2022|Addiction Story, Drug Addiction Story, Life Story, Mental Health Stories, Real Stories, story|

We had all been drinking and smoking Spice; it was Halloween. I was with two friends walking through Dane Park in Margate. One friend had an opened bottle of beer where it was a no drink zone. a task force van zoomed up to us with its sirens on when we briefly stopped to rest. I was already half cut, and we were no less than 15 minutes away from the party when we all got searched. I had two unopened bottles of whisky + around £100 of legal highs

The Breakdown Of My Second Foster Care Placement

By |2023-01-13T13:45:31+00:00November 2, 2021|Foster Care Story, Life Story, Mental Health Stories, Real Stories, Social Services Story, story|

Introduction to The Breakdown Of My Second Foster Care Placement Hi, to those of you who've not ready the first and second post, these will explain how I got to this stage. And how the second placement was so important to me. There is also a pre-foster care post. Going into Foster Care Aged 9 | My Life Stories 007 My First Foster Placement | My Life Stories My Second Foster Care Placement With Carol And John So this is quite an exciting post but one that's not been updated on since 2019. The Breakdown Of My Second Foster Care Placement when I posted the last post about Carol And John. and it was very vague. And did not contain that much information.So now I'm [...]

My Life With ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder) A brief timeline

By |2023-01-13T13:45:32+00:00October 21, 2021|Adhd Blog, Adhd Story, Blog, Life Story, Real Stories, story|

Disclaimer: This Blog Refers to links that are affiliated. Any affiliated links will contain *** before the link. My ADHD Diagnosis They diagnosed me with ADHD Aged 5 after being referred to a psychiatrist by my school for an assessment. This was because I was always hyperactive and disruptive in classes. And I really struggled to focus on anything other than topics i was interested in. After seeing a psychiatrist for about a few weeks, they diagnosed me with ADHD and offered medication which where accepted. Did ADHD Medication Help? In short, yes my ADHD medication helped. But it also had a lot of cons, because the ADHD Tablets prescribed to me where often made from Methylphenidate. i soon learnt that i struggled to sleep. This [...]

New Direction. New Career. But why? and how? – From Technology to Carer

By |2023-01-13T13:45:32+00:00July 10, 2020|Employment Story, Life Story, Real Stories, story|

New Direction. New Career.  after dedicating a good 10 Years into computing and technology. last year November of 2019 I started to realize I had lost my love for what once was a passion. don't get me wrong I still love technology but not on the level I did... the company I work for needed some extra help over Christmas. so I took an opportunity to do some extra Bank - Waking Night shifts as a therapeutic  Practitioner. with hardly any training/knowledge but plenty of personal experience, I spent the first few nights studying my service users care plans. (if I'm gonna do this job I better get it right.) How?  I loved every moment of the work I did. and continued until January which [...]

Spice / Legal High Addiction – The Story

By |2023-01-13T13:45:32+00:00February 1, 2020|Addiction Story, Drug Addiction Story, Life Story, Mental Health Stories, Real Stories, story|

PART ONE - Prior to the addiction To Spice / Legal Highs Not long after moving out of my care placement in Rochester, I moved to Liberty Group Care Homes. Back in my hometown, of margate. I met some new friends. Glen through my father. As they were currently living together in shared accommodation. Unfortunately, things did not work out and me and my father fell out because of a silly argument that was taken the wrong way. (Maybe one day I will discuss this story more) and we started sofa surfing. I was consuming a lot of cannabis already and started drinking. I hardly stayed in the placement I had at Liberty Group Care Homes. It was now referred to me as the "Hotel". [...]

Addicted to drugs and then Homeless and finally Now I’m A Homeowner

By |2023-01-13T13:45:32+00:00November 30, 2019|Addiction Story, Drug Addiction Story, Homeless Story, Homeowner Story, Life Story, Real Stories, story|

This story has been featured in the isle of thanet news From homelessness and addiction to work and becoming a home owner – “do not give up on hope” This is a short overview of my journey through the progress of being Homeless To Homeowner. I hope you guys enjoy the story. its been fun to write and go back through the experience. I remember the day I became homeless I had a bit of a checklist for the day it went something like: Tent Location Food I was lucky to have some money to hand. so I headed to our local shopping centre and located a camping shop where I brought a tent and a rucksack. and some basic fire-starting materials. whist I was [...]

The incident at school that led to my hospitalization.

By |2023-01-13T13:45:33+00:00October 1, 2019|Foster Care Story, Life Story, Mental Health Stories, Real Stories, School Story, Self Harm Story, Social Services Story, story|

Disclosure, this post contains content relating to Self Harm / Mental Health that some people may find distressing, and relates to a true story and incident that happened to me at school while in the Ellington and Hearson school James is a fictional name for Data Protection. The lead up to the incident at school. I was 15, and after six years of hiding the first instance of self-harm (The Thing), my mental health was at its worst. Every day there was a conflict of the sort, and I was struggling in school. Both physically and mentally. Some people thought that my coming out as gay led me to go crazy and do what I did. This was incorrect. The bullying was very minimal compared [...]

2 Years Together – A Tribute to the Amazing Josh

By |2023-01-13T13:45:33+00:00September 27, 2019|Life Story, Real Stories, Relationship Story, story|

its that time of year again! so today me and josh are celebrating two years of being together as boyfriends. this year has had a few challenges as we learn each other boundaries but I can't thank him enough for being by my side. This year we have made many leaps, firstly for you to move in with me. secondly to get a joint mortgage together. in the around 5 months we've been living together it has not been easy, we've had to learn each other's boundaries and adapt. we've bickered a lot. but we are still going strong. on Monday we pick up the keys to our new apartment in Rochester... and we will start a new chapter together. us getting a mortgage at [...]

Somebody I used to know. – A Story About Losing a Friend During My Mental Health Struggles.

By |2023-01-13T13:45:33+00:00August 31, 2019|Friends Story, Life Story, Losing friends Story, Mental Health Stories, Real Stories, Sectioned Under The Mental Health Act Story, story|

for the sake of this story and for privacy the person in this story I will refer to as Jake. A Story About Losing a Friend During My Mental Health Struggles. - Meeting Jake Back in the day, I had a blackberry phone with BBM. We all used to add random people from broadcasts and I happened to add Jake without even knowing what sort of friendship would be formed from this. I remember posting as my status one day the following: "I Think This is it, Goodbye Everyone!" No one picked up on it. No one but Jake replied to that. Jake Jumped into my private messages and said something along the lines of: "Are you Planning to Commit Suicide, Please Don't!" I stopped [...]

Coming out gay 4 times! – My Journey Escaping The Closet

By |2023-01-13T13:45:33+00:00August 1, 2019|Bullying Story, Foster Care Story, Gay Story, Life Story, Real Stories, School Story, Social Services Story, story|

Coming Out Gay 4 times! Quick Overview. Being Gay In Modern Society seems to get more tolerable in the united kingdom at least. Although this doesn't mean it's hard for the individual to escape and having to hide their true selves. In this story, I speak about the 4 times I had to come out of the closet. I know at this point you're all confused. But hang in there, read on to see My Journey Escaping The Closet. When do people discover their sexuality? it really depends. For me, it was 10, my partner later on in life when he was 18 and for other people a lot later.  There is no wrong or right time for that clock to tick. but hiding your [...]

how matthew turner and kenny cole tricked me into subletting

By |2023-01-13T13:45:33+00:00July 17, 2019|Blog, Drug Addiction Story, Homeless Story, Involved in criminal activity Story, Life Story, Real Stories, story|

The Outline Of The Story and how i was tricked into subletting my mum and her partner at the time Matthew Turner where on bad books at the time but they where living apart. my sister kera had just abandoned her flat in a very untidey fashion and me and mat was living there in order to keep it clean and  restore it to the condition it once was in. (This was not to far before i was made homeless. and i was also in early stages of addiction to legal highs) eventually time came up on us and as my sister did not want to return the property was brought back under the landlords control. thankfully that same day i had been given a [...]

Being A Victim At School – My Life Stories

By |2023-01-13T13:46:32+00:00March 1, 2019|Bullying Story, Gay Story, Life Story, Mental Health Stories, Real Stories, School Story, story|

an overview of Being A Victim At School At school, I was bullied from primary on to secondary school. In this blog, I wanted to overview some of the stories I have to share regarding this. And some of the traumatic and distressing times I suffered in school as well as how I finally got this to end. But first, let's give you an overview of why I was always targeted for bullying and abuse. The Overview There are many reasons why people were bullied at school. Mine is typical in many cases. I was bullied because I could not stick up for myself, was not very sociable or "academically challenged", I was bullied for my looks and for being "gay" (although at this time [...]

Broke my collarbone Aged 10 | Life Stories 005

By |2023-01-13T13:46:32+00:00September 8, 2018|Foster Care Story, Injury Story, Life Story, Real Stories, School Story, Social Services Story, story|

I Broke my collarbone Aged 10 and funny enough the only time to date that I’ve broken/fractured a bone. I was a cocky got the night before I was trampolining and was doing front flips etc with no issues at all The day after I was going to school, and I said to my Foster Carer Sally, I had never broken a bone. But whilst in school, I was sprinting and my arm clicked. the next thing I know is I had massive sharp pain going through my body. And I couldn’t walk or breathe because of the pain and position of the break. It was very odd to how this happened. But the doctors at QEQM (Queen Elizabeth The Queen Mother Hospital) Said it [...]

Life Has Been interesting recently

By |2023-01-13T13:46:32+00:00September 6, 2018|Life Story, Real Stories, story|

It’s always good when life has been interesting. It’s better than the same old here and there. I’m currently looking at new opportunities to grow this blog. And my professional career, and I am unsure of how to balance it all out. Another issue is once again. How does one deal with marketing on a blog that covers everything? I’ve been sharing my posts in the right area, but once that post has died out boom, all traffic has gone. For An Example; with the homeless section blue = being homeless 1/3 and being homeless 2/3 is greenT Apart from that, everything else about life is going outstandingly, me and Josh are doing well. And I have a two-week break coming up starting on the 17th [...]

My Life Stories 002| A Medicated Mess

By |2023-01-13T13:46:32+00:00August 22, 2018|Addiction Story, Adhd Story, Child Development Story, Foster Care Story, Insomnia Story, Life Story, Medication Story, Real Stories, Social Services Story, story|

Sadly, a lot of my life I’ve spent medicated both legally and illegally to calm me down or blank my brain to save my head from wandering. Causing me to become a medicated mess, this prompted me to make quite a few bad and silly choices in my life. including drug addictions to Legal Highs The Story It all started when I was Five Years Old my school referred me to a service called CAMS (Child and Adolescence Mental Health Services) this was initially as they suspected I was suffering from ADHD (attention deficit hyperactive disorder) ADHD Image Copied From http://www.educationalneuroscience.org.uk/resources/neuromyth-or-neurofact/is-adhd-on-the-rise-in-uk-schools/ Shortly after they diagnosed me with ADHD And Prescribed Ritalin or “methylphenidate hcl” although this allowed me to concentrate there were two main issues, [...]

My Life Stories 001| Growing Up Gay

By |2023-01-13T13:46:33+00:00August 13, 2018|Foster Care Story, Gay Story, Life Story, Real Stories, story|

But one thing I regret and still am disgusted about… during my years “Discovering myself” is the few girlfriends I had during this stage. Some of which I was very decisive and not accurate. I never wanted to hurt anyone but feel as if I did. Between ages 13 – 15 I made 3 attempts to come out to my family. But each one I backed out of until February The 9th 2012 7:30 PM when I finally ended the secrecy. Attempts to come out

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