A Message to My Father

By |2023-01-27T19:44:12+00:00January 28, 2023|Child Development Story, Generational trauma, Life Story, Mental Health Stories, Relationship Story, Self Harm Story, Social Services Story, story|

Message i sent to my Father 27/01/2023 honestly Father - i think we should move on and part ways, the more i study my past the more i realise that deliberate or not you have caused over 75% of my Trauma, i know you had your own trauma and i can't fault you for that, But I can fault you for causing my trauma. You've had ample chances to turn your life around but instead you drag us down with you, and all of your kids now suffer the effects of mental health. You was hospitalised last year after your mental health breaking down and had a great chance of finally getting the help you needed and rebuilding your life and finally becoming that "changed [...]

my first public speech about growing up in care | Looked After Children Promoting Equality Of Opportunity Conference

By |2023-01-13T13:45:30+00:00December 16, 2022|Addiction Story, Child Development Story, Foster Care Story, Generational trauma, Involved in criminal activity Story, Medication Story, Public Speaking, Real Stories, Relationship Story, Social Services Story, story|

It's always been my dream to speak in public, but also a fear. but with persistence and a lot of courage i was able to use my not so desirable upbringing to some good use. and to help other professionals looking after Children in care. this is a story about my recent Speech and how Li Jean-Luc Harris has overcome his fear of public speaking after attending Looked After Children Promoting Equality Of Opportunity Conference @ Open Forum events Manchester

i am a product of generational trauma

By |2023-01-13T13:45:30+00:00July 2, 2022|Adolescence development Story, Child Development Story, Generational trauma, Life Story, Mental Health Stories, Real Stories, story|

but I was determined to break the cycle of generational trauma As soon as I was placed into my second foster care placement. I had to readjust to life as everything  I had thought to be in a "normal" family was challenged. my second foster carers did an amazing job of showing me how a family should function and that constant chaotic situations and violence was not normal.

From Looked After Child to the Founder of Winstar Technologies

By |2023-02-07T18:55:54+00:00May 31, 2022|Adhd Story, Blog, Foster Care Story, Real Stories, story|

I've suffered with ADHD since a child, was medicated for a while but I decided to get myself removed from them, but recently I was able to get re-diagnosed and prescribed again under my own decision (and currently working on an autism diagnosis) which has allowed me to focus again and work on my new company, Winstar Technologies.

Going into Foster Care Aged 11

By |2023-01-19T19:05:43+00:00May 13, 2022|Foster Care Story, Life Story, Real Stories, Social Services Story, story|

The events before I was going into care It was January 2008, not long after Christmas. At the time, I was currently living with my Father. My Brother DH,AA and I were not the greatest of behaved kids if we are honest. We both had very complex needs and needed some help with our behavioural/emotional issues. Anyway, we had pushed our father way too far one weekend, and caused some issues with my dad and his current partner (at the time) Carol, and they decided to give up caring for us. Not knowing what to do, my dad sent DH and me to school on Monday morning and told us we were not returning home, which was a heart breaking moment for any child to [...]

Sectioned under the mental health act aged 15. At Kent and Medway adolescence hospital, (woodland House) Staplehurst Kent (KMAH)

By |2023-02-07T18:55:48+00:00February 8, 2022|Foster Care Story, Life Story, Mental Health Stories, Real Stories, Sectioned Under The Mental Health Act Story, Self Harm Story, Social Services Story, story|

I was checked into the Kent and Medway Adolescent Hospital, Woodland House, KMAH and the careers left me, the day had already gone past, i was scared and afraid. being only 15 and already suffering with a lot of past truama i could only think bad things where going to happen

How I become homeless aged 18 and addicted to drugs.

By |2023-01-13T13:45:31+00:00February 4, 2022|Addiction Story, Drug Addiction Story, Life Story, Mental Health Stories, Real Stories, story|

We had all been drinking and smoking Spice; it was Halloween. I was with two friends walking through Dane Park in Margate. One friend had an opened bottle of beer where it was a no drink zone. a task force van zoomed up to us with its sirens on when we briefly stopped to rest. I was already half cut, and we were no less than 15 minutes away from the party when we all got searched. I had two unopened bottles of whisky + around £100 of legal highs

The Breakdown Of My Second Foster Care Placement

By |2023-02-07T18:55:48+00:00November 2, 2021|Foster Care Story, Life Story, Mental Health Stories, Real Stories, Social Services Story, story|

Introduction to The Breakdown Of My Second Foster Care Placement Hi, to those of you who've not ready the first and second post, these will explain how I got to this stage. And how the second placement was so important to me. There is also a pre-foster care post. Going into Foster Care Aged 9 | My Life Stories 007 My First Foster Placement | My Life Stories My Second Foster Care Placement With Carol And John So this is quite an exciting post but one that's not been updated on since 2019. The Breakdown Of My Second Foster Care Placement when I posted the last post about Carol And John. and it was very vague. And did not contain that much information.So now I'm [...]

My Life With ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder) A brief timeline

By |2023-02-07T18:55:53+00:00October 21, 2021|Adhd Blog, Adhd Story, Blog, Life Story, Real Stories, story|

Disclaimer: This Blog Refers to links that are affiliated. Any affiliated links will contain *** before the link. My ADHD Diagnosis They diagnosed me with ADHD Aged 5 after being referred to a psychiatrist by my school for an assessment. This was because I was always hyperactive and disruptive in classes. And I really struggled to focus on anything other than topics i was interested in. After seeing a psychiatrist for about a few weeks, they diagnosed me with ADHD and offered medication which where accepted. Did ADHD Medication Help? In short, yes my ADHD medication helped. But it also had a lot of cons, because the ADHD Tablets prescribed to me where often made from Methylphenidate. i soon learnt that i struggled to sleep. This [...]

3 years working with independence-development Ltd. (IDL)

By |2023-02-07T18:55:52+00:00April 2, 2021|Employment Story, Life Story, story|

I was desperate for a new job, and I had past ties with Independence-Development Ltd. (IDL) I first started working for Independence-Development Ltd (IDL) back in August 2017 when I was still stock-taking for OCS I had been desperately working every shift I could get but I still could not make Ends meet no matter how hard I tried. I remember calling up the director (we had past ties) and literally begging him for a job on the way back from one of my OCS shifts. “I would do anything, as long as I have a stable income. I would even scrub your toilets,” the Director being as nice as he was. Looking at the circumstances, too. He took me into an interview. I lived [...]

is this what we call a mid life crisis

By |2022-12-28T20:38:29+00:00February 26, 2021|Life Story, story|

is this what we call a mid life crisis?? haha - well as you know i'm in and out of work.  this week we officially setup the new company and signed our first contract.  which secures half my income! that was a nice. but i'm stilll looking and interviewing for community care work. but with me focusing on staying back in IT it makes me wonder what is left here for our loving and caring community. What is next for us? right now i'm unsure, i always spoke about a time where i could not no longer talk about my own issues, i've been at this wall for whole of 2020! and its creeping into 21! not only was the blog something i really wanted [...]

a new job, to jobless, to employed to director

By |2022-12-28T20:20:48+00:00February 23, 2021|Employment Story, Life Story, story|

its been ages since i posted here, sorry about that my personal / work life has been all up and over the place. i think i've only just came to conclusion with what is going on myself. I left my job at Independence-Development-ltd back in december to take on a new it job for a best friend of mine, and it was going very well. but i decided until work picks up i'm going to do some part time work (head back to care) or as i'm doing right now is starting a company again. found my first paying monthly contract and closed that which helps and secures half of my expensises so i just got to find that part time job to keep me [...]

Covid19| The 2020 Lockdown – am i mad yet?

By |2022-12-28T20:19:20+00:00September 30, 2020|Life Story, Mental Health Stories, story|

COVID19 has changed all of our lives, from being locked in. and having our freedom temporary stripped away. how has the big 2020 lockdown changed your life? - what have you learned about yourself? - and is your life quite how you thought it was before. My Life During COVID19 In This Section, I will explain what has changed in my life during the 2020 COVID19 Outbreak. from personal relationships to work and impulsive £1,000 Fish Tank Investments, £200 on herbs and spices (for cooking! xD )  :whoopsie: if your anything like me.... then your probably thinking snap!. this year has been crazy. what a wasted year. my debt has gone sky high from impulsive purchases from new fish, to a new fish tank. and [...]

New Direction. New Career. But why? and how? – From Technology to Carer

By |2023-02-07T18:55:52+00:00July 10, 2020|Employment Story, Life Story, Real Stories, story|

New Direction. New Career.  after dedicating a good 10 Years into computing and technology. last year November of 2019 I started to realize I had lost my love for what once was a passion. don't get me wrong I still love technology but not on the level I did... the company I work for needed some extra help over Christmas. so I took an opportunity to do some extra Bank - Waking Night shifts as a therapeutic  Practitioner. with hardly any training/knowledge but plenty of personal experience, I spent the first few nights studying my service users care plans. (if I'm gonna do this job I better get it right.) How?  I loved every moment of the work I did. and continued until January which [...]

Spice / Legal High Addiction – The Story

By |2023-02-07T18:55:51+00:00February 1, 2020|Addiction Story, Drug Addiction Story, Life Story, Mental Health Stories, Real Stories, story|

PART ONE - Prior to the addiction To Spice / Legal Highs Not long after moving out of my care placement in Rochester, I moved to Liberty Group Care Homes. Back in my hometown, of margate. I met some new friends. Glen through my father. As they were currently living together in shared accommodation. Unfortunately, things did not work out and me and my father fell out because of a silly argument that was taken the wrong way. (Maybe one day I will discuss this story more) and we started sofa surfing. I was consuming a lot of cannabis already and started drinking. I hardly stayed in the placement I had at Liberty Group Care Homes. It was now referred to me as the "Hotel". [...]

Addicted to drugs and then Homeless and finally Now I’m A Homeowner

By |2023-01-13T13:45:32+00:00November 30, 2019|Addiction Story, Drug Addiction Story, Homeless Story, Homeowner Story, Life Story, Real Stories, story|

This story has been featured in the isle of thanet news From homelessness and addiction to work and becoming a home owner – “do not give up on hope” This is a short overview of my journey through the progress of being Homeless To Homeowner. I hope you guys enjoy the story. its been fun to write and go back through the experience. I remember the day I became homeless I had a bit of a checklist for the day it went something like: Tent Location Food I was lucky to have some money to hand. so I headed to our local shopping centre and located a camping shop where I brought a tent and a rucksack. and some basic fire-starting materials. whist I was [...]

The incident at school that led to my hospitalization.

By |2023-02-07T18:55:42+00:00October 1, 2019|Foster Care Story, Life Story, Mental Health Stories, Real Stories, School Story, Self Harm Story, Social Services Story, story|

Disclosure, this post contains content relating to Self Harm / Mental Health that some people may find distressing, and relates to a true story and incident that happened to me at school while in the Ellington and Hearson school James is a fictional name for Data Protection. The lead up to the incident at school. I was 15, and after six years of hiding the first instance of self-harm (The Thing), my mental health was at its worst. Every day there was a conflict of the sort, and I was struggling in school. Both physically and mentally. Some people thought that my coming out as gay led me to go crazy and do what I did. This was incorrect. The bullying was very minimal compared [...]

2 Years Together – A Tribute to the Amazing Josh

By |2023-01-13T13:45:33+00:00September 27, 2019|Life Story, Real Stories, Relationship Story, story|

its that time of year again! so today me and josh are celebrating two years of being together as boyfriends. this year has had a few challenges as we learn each other boundaries but I can't thank him enough for being by my side. This year we have made many leaps, firstly for you to move in with me. secondly to get a joint mortgage together. in the around 5 months we've been living together it has not been easy, we've had to learn each other's boundaries and adapt. we've bickered a lot. but we are still going strong. on Monday we pick up the keys to our new apartment in Rochester... and we will start a new chapter together. us getting a mortgage at [...]

Somebody I used to know. – A Story About Losing a Friend During My Mental Health Struggles.

By |2023-02-07T18:55:41+00:00August 31, 2019|Friends Story, Life Story, Losing friends Story, Mental Health Stories, Real Stories, Sectioned Under The Mental Health Act Story, story|

for the sake of this story and for privacy the person in this story I will refer to as Jake. A Story About Losing a Friend During My Mental Health Struggles. - Meeting Jake Back in the day, I had a blackberry phone with BBM. We all used to add random people from broadcasts and I happened to add Jake without even knowing what sort of friendship would be formed from this. I remember posting as my status one day the following: "I Think This is it, Goodbye Everyone!" No one picked up on it. No one but Jake replied to that. Jake Jumped into my private messages and said something along the lines of: "Are you Planning to Commit Suicide, Please Don't!" I stopped [...]

Coming out gay 4 times! – My Journey Escaping The Closet

By |2023-02-07T18:55:49+00:00August 1, 2019|Bullying Story, Foster Care Story, Gay Story, Life Story, Real Stories, School Story, Social Services Story, story|

Coming Out Gay 4 times! Quick Overview. Being Gay In Modern Society seems to get more tolerable in the united kingdom at least. Although this doesn't mean it's hard for the individual to escape and having to hide their true selves. In this story, I speak about the 4 times I had to come out of the closet. I know at this point you're all confused. But hang in there, read on to see My Journey Escaping The Closet. When do people discover their sexuality? it really depends. For me, it was 10, my partner later on in life when he was 18 and for other people a lot later.  There is no wrong or right time for that clock to tick. but hiding your [...]

how matthew turner and kenny cole tricked me into subletting

By |2023-01-13T13:45:33+00:00July 17, 2019|Blog, Drug Addiction Story, Homeless Story, Involved in criminal activity Story, Life Story, Real Stories, story|

The Outline Of The Story and how i was tricked into subletting my mum and her partner at the time Matthew Turner where on bad books at the time but they where living apart. my sister kera had just abandoned her flat in a very untidey fashion and me and mat was living there in order to keep it clean and  restore it to the condition it once was in. (This was not to far before i was made homeless. and i was also in early stages of addiction to legal highs) eventually time came up on us and as my sister did not want to return the property was brought back under the landlords control. thankfully that same day i had been given a [...]

7 Years ago today, i was sectioned under the mental health act. aged 15. – My Life Stories.

By |2023-02-07T18:55:40+00:00May 1, 2019|Life Story, Mental Health Stories, story|

Every year on may 1st I take the time to remember the trauma and pain I went through on this day. i was placed into a mental health hospital. - 7 years ago today The Process of being put into the hospital can be read here. And there were so many emotions going through my head and questions to be asked. When being admitted my life was at an all-time low. I just came out as gay had mixed responses, was trying to help support friends also suffering from mental health. as well as dealing with my demons. I was a sinking ship that's burning, And I never even thought I would survive the next seven years of my life. let alone do the fantastic [...]

Being A Victim At School – My Life Stories

By |2023-01-13T13:46:32+00:00March 1, 2019|Bullying Story, Gay Story, Life Story, Mental Health Stories, Real Stories, School Story, story|

an overview of Being A Victim At School At school, I was bullied from primary on to secondary school. In this blog, I wanted to overview some of the stories I have to share regarding this. And some of the traumatic and distressing times I suffered in school as well as how I finally got this to end. But first, let's give you an overview of why I was always targeted for bullying and abuse. The Overview There are many reasons why people were bullied at school. Mine is typical in many cases. I was bullied because I could not stick up for myself, was not very sociable or "academically challenged", I was bullied for my looks and for being "gay" (although at this time [...]

Working For Alpha Core International | My Life Stories

By |2022-12-28T20:31:40+00:00February 15, 2019|Employment Story, Life Story, story|

Whist I was homeless, I was approached by two of my mum's friends who had started an all one Business Support Services. He was looking for someone to help them with IT, and an apprentice in project management. I first met them in their offices. I was still homeless at this point, but that didn't put them off. I told them my ambitions, my skills and they saw value in me. But at that point in time, I was not capable of joining. I was promised that once I had cleaned myself up and was no longer homeless and on legal highs, I could come back. And I would be welcome to start a placement with them. 1 Month Later I had finally got myself [...]

Trying To Patent A Wireless Computer (With ElectroMagnetic Waves Or Inferred) Aged 13/14 but failing

By |2023-03-08T18:40:40+00:00January 21, 2019|Life Story, Projects Story, story|

When I was 13 or 14 not precisely sure I was in school and interested in technology. when it struck to me of the idea of building a desktop computer that didn't have to be plugged in. At first, I thought it would work well with infrared. This was scrapped almost instantly as it did not transfer enough power to keep the computer running. Instead, I opted in the design for Bluetooth principles for mice, keyboards and speakers etc. after lots of research I found out about ElectroMagnetic Waves, and this was perfect for transfering electric from one device to another. Image Sourced from slidesharecdn.com/ An Example of how electromagnetic coils work to power a mobile device Sourced from Alibaba using [...]

Happy Birthday, I’m 22

By |2023-03-08T18:42:29+00:00November 30, 2018|Celebration Story, Life Story, story|

Its that time of year again I've Leveled Up IRL  the clocks have turned and another year has passed by. being 22 is no different from 21 apart from the fact no one really cares about your birthdays between 21 -29 and by the time your 30 your not excited anymore.   and how did my day go? I was with Josh I most likely will be drinking..... and spending time with the family It's also payday :D But the truth is...... I prewrote this post and scheduled it on the 19/11/2018 at 14:42 ;) peace.

Working as a StockTaker For Retail & Asset Solutions RAS (Formerly Known As OCS) | Life Stories 006

By |2023-03-08T18:44:18+00:00November 18, 2018|Employment Story, Life Story, story|

So whats a shift like with Retail Asset Solutions? It depends. management is where it's a letdown and the inconsistency of shifts. for example one day I could start a shift at 4 am finish at 12 pm and be on another shift that same day for 8 pm. and this was a common occurrence. breaks were under the discretion of the team leader and shifts could go over 12 hours on a frequent base. Whats Progression Like  For Retail Asset Solutions? Very small chance of progression. I had seen counters of over 15 years experience never being given an opportunity as they were too good of a counter... also if you don't drive or can't attend shifts on your own forget about it... is Ocs A Job Or a career (Find out the difference Click Jobs Vs Career) if you want to make a career out of OCS don't be a good counter get a drivers licence and friendly with the managers but for most people who get stuck as a stocktaker sadly stay there.

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